Kids....When and How Many?

Before you get married everyone asks you about your dating life and when you are getting married. As if it is completely under your control. Then you get married and it changes to when and how many kids are you going to have. I am not sure when it became ok to even ask these kind of questions. It really is nobody's business. If you want to have 0 or 10 kids, it is up to you. People even seem to have an opinion on how they should be spaced out. Unfortutely, we sometimes even make people feel bad for their choices when we may not have all the facts. I am not sure if this is just a Mormon thing or just the way things are now, but I would like to see it change.